We all have these sneaky emotions that are real, yes, but they are based on lies. I can see them easily in others because their struggle is different than mine and thereby easily noticeable to me. They grew up in a different family, had a different childhood and were confronted with different problems. Yet, we all struggle with some sort of reality in our minds that is not God’s best for us.
The worst part is that our enemy (the devil) has had many generations on this earth, and he can size us up in an instant. The devil knows exactly what circumstances will push our “dysfunctional feelings” button, and he runs us through the same destructive scenario over and over again. Here is the thing: If we are having feelings that do not produce peace, joy and contentment in our lives, they are not of God!
It doesn’t mean that our circumstances will always be smooth-sailing. We must remember that Jesus slept in a boat that experienced fisherman thought was going to plummet into the depths of the water! But what this does mean is that there will always be storms in our lives, and there are certain storms that regularly throw us into faithless fits! These are the struggles that the enemy uses to rock our boat and our trust in God.
“Suddenly a furious storm came up on the lake, so that the waves swept over the boat. But Jesus was sleeping” (Matthew 8.24 NIV).
So if you are like me and tired of experiencing feelings that are not of God, we must fight the dysfunctional emotional cycle.
First, identify the circumstances that trigger the false feelings.
Second, recognize the feelings of worry, fear, misery, dissatisfaction, etc. and rebuke each one.
Third, try not to make any decisions during emotionally compromised moments when your feelings are not rooted in truth.
Fourth, see the circumstance as a door, holding back the pandora box of negative emotions. Do not open that door –not even a crack!
Fifth, replace that moment with something else. Pray, read the Bible, listen to Christian music, journal/write, work out, etc.
Sixth, create new paths in your brain and life experiences away from the destructive cycle of emotions. Here you have to actively make a choice. You will still feel those negative feelings rise up, but you must choose to turn away and replace them.
Seventh, realize that this process takes time. We can be a product of our experiences, but the Holy Spirit’s work in our lives is stronger!If we don't feed destructive feelings with our time, energy and thoughts, they will begin to fade and one day they will disappear. Click To Tweet
Eighth, claim God’s promises that are filling His Word. Stronger is the Holy Spirit in you than all the negative emotions of the world. Remember that Jesus has seen and heard every stronghold and has overcome them all! He can and will help you have victory over those destructive feelings!
“You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world” (1 John 4.4 NIV).
“For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are–yet he did not sin” (Hebrews 4.15 NIV).
“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid” (John 14.27 NIV).
“I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete” (John 15.11 NIV).
“I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want” (Philippians 4.12 NIV).