My oldest son is now in second grade. Having been homeschooled, he is the new kid in a class of students who have known each other since kindergarten, and he’s having trouble finding someone to play with during recess. My husband and I have been giving him advice on how to make friends, and I’ve even contemplated asking the teacher to tell the students to include him in their play. Each day he’ll come home with a hit or miss recess report. Sometimes he’ll find a friend, but other times he just walks around and thinks.
Recently, when I was tucking him into bed, he told me, “Mommy, everyone has a two. I don’t have my two.”
“How many kids are in your class?” I asked.
“Seventeen,” he replied.
“Oh, that’s an odd number,” I said.
“That’s bad, isn’t it, Mommy?” he whispered.
I told him that playing in a group of three is very fun, and he just needs to find a group of two to join, but in my mind I was thinking, “My son is the odd man out.”
My husband and I started to worry about our son, but God encouraged us with the story of David before he became king. David was a shepherd boy and definitely the odd man out. He was alone most of the time, keeping company with only the sheep and his thoughts. However, God was able to cultivate a beautiful, intimate relationship with David during that time.
It is always nice when our kids are popular and included, but there is a reason when they are not. Right now my husband and I feel God leading us to allow our son to walk through this time of learning. Our son is beginning to feel the prompting of the Holy Spirit inside of him, and he’s starting to take tiny steps of faith. We don’t want to rob him of the spiritual growth God has planned for him.
It’s hard to watch people we care about struggle, but we shouldn’t always rescue them from being uncomfortable. God has a purpose behind every event in our life, especially the difficult ones; and we don’t want to circumvent His movements because we don’t like the process. God has an amazing purpose for my son, and He’s already preparing him for the challenges along the way. I pray that God makes my son strong in faith, so he will make a difference for Christ.
Question: Have you or someone close to you ever felt like the “odd man out”? How did you help him/her find victory in that situation? What lesson was learned?
“Yes, everything else is worthless when compared with the infinite value of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have discarded everything else, counting it all as garbage, so that I could gain Christ” (Philippians 3.8 NLT).
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