Day 35: Friend Pressure
Several of my good friends surprised me by going to my bodybuilding competition. They drove hours to the event, made signs in my honor and brought me yummy after-competition snacks. I was overwhelmed with gratitude that they would spend the money, time and effort to support me. Suddenly, I felt this pressure to do well. I began to think that if my friends made the sacrifice to come watch me compete, I needed to be worthy of their support. I didn’t want to let anyone of them down or else their efforts would have been done in vain. I almost regretted them coming because of the pressure I felt to make them proud of me.
I confessed my feelings to one of my friends, and I could tell right away that my thoughts were wrong. I was acting out of insecurity. My friends were supporting me simply because they loved and valued me. They were happy that I placed well, but my placement didn’t change their main reason for supporting me. I realized how much I base my self-worth on what I do instead of who I am. I am a wife, mom, sister, daughter and friend, and my existence has value because God created me and placed His seal on me. Although I enjoy achieving victories for His glory, my actions don’t change how much God loves me. He loves me simply because He is a God who loves His precious creation.
Culturally, we put so much of our self-worth into our achievements. Although God wants us to excel and do great things, our actions do not place more or less value on us. We have worth because God says we do. God loves and cherishes each of us. He made us in His image and died to redeem us from our sins. He pursues us, and enjoys our company without the awards, acclaim or achievement. Instead of working out of a pressure to earn my worth, I need to work out of the understanding that I have worth already placed inside of me. And whether I win or lose doesn’t matter. I am a child of God who is valued, cherished, loved and full of promise and purpose.
“Now He who establishes us with you in Christ and has anointed us is God, who also has sealed us and given us the Spirit in our hearts as a guarantee” (2 Corinthians 1.21-22 NKJV).
God, I want to truly know how much I am loved by You. I realize now that Your love for me is not based on my own actions. It is rooted in a supernatural love that cannot be explained or examined in the natural. God, You are Love. You have created me before time began, and You have placed Your seal of approval on me. You love me despite my actions. Help me to fully understand how much I am loved. I want to not only know it in my mind, but I want that realization to sink deep within my heart. I want my eyes to be opened to Your love, and I want my actions to spring from the belief in that love. I pray this in Jesus’ name, amen.
- Do you base your self-worth on your achievements?
- Are there times when you feel uncomfortable receiving God’s love?
- Will you accept the truth that you are loved no matter what?
You are loved by God!