“Let all that you do be done with love” (1 Corinthians 16.14 NKJV).
Many people don’t realize that “love” is not just a feeling. It is a choice. Jesus commands us to love (Matthew 22.39), and He could not command love if it were only an emotion. Free will ensures that no one is capable of commanding feelings to magically appear in people. However, choices can be commanded—whether we feel like doing them or not—and love is a choice. When Paul writes that we should do everything “with love,” he is not talking about the lovely, nice feeling at the beginning of a romance. He’s talking about the choice to love others and care about their well-being no matter what it costs and how much it hurts. God so loved the world that He allowed His Son to be beaten, crucified and die for the salvation of sinners. This is not a very pleasant picture of love, but it is the strongest form a love. Jesus didn’t feel like dying on the cross, but He chose to do it because the Father commanded it. Jesus made a choice to obey with love and God sacrificed His Son with love. When we do everything “with love” each day, we will have to make tough decisions that aren’t always warm and fuzzy. In fact, it means we will have to discipline with love, confront with love and sometimes walk away with love. God’s love is always true and pure, so whenever we are confused about how to handle a situation with love, we can just go to Him and He will lead us with love.
“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life” (John 3.16 NIV).