Planning my wedding was difficult for me. My family was far away, and I had never organized anything beyond a small birthday party. I received a lot of help from friends, pointing me in the right direction. Since I was a senior in college and lived off of my waitressing tips, I was on a tight budget. One friend gave me the number of a local lady who baked cakes from her home. I went to her house and flipped through her cake magazines, and I finally found the cake of my dreams.
My spring wedding was going to be held in a charming garden, so I wanted a cake with large, frosted flowers and leaves draping down one side of the stacked tiers of round cakes. My chosen cake was very plain and simple besides the colorful foliage made out of frosting. I was very pleased that I had actually picked something out that would fit the feel of my reception, and I looked forward to the display of edible flowers on my special cake.
The day of my wedding, the bridesmaids came early to the garden area outside of the reception hall to take pictures. My friends were decked out like lavender cupcakes, and we enjoyed the creativity of the photographer (also a friend of one of my friends). I was in awe of how God had brought all the details together. There was no way in my financial situation and wedding planning ignorance that I would have been able to pull off such a beautiful and memorable wedding.
A friend came by and told me that my wedding cake had arrived and the baker was waiting to talk to with me. As I walked into the reception hall, I knew right away that the cake was nothing like I ordered it. The lady waited for me as I looked over the cake. It had the plain white tiered cakes; but instead of large frosted flowers and leaves gracefully flowing down my cake, each tier was topped with a small bundle of faux lavender flowers.
I stared at the cake for several moments, while the woman who brought the cake stared at me. Finally, I came to a conclusion.
“It looks beautiful,” I said.
The woman looked relieved and quickly grabbed her things and left.
I walked to my dressing room and waited for my groom to arrive. My sister asked me how I liked the cake, and I told her that it wasn’t what I ordered but it was okay. I wouldn’t let something small ruin my whole day. The beauty of what God had done for me that day overshadowed my insignificant and subjective opinion on cake design.
Many of us want God to do great things in our lives, but we micro-manage the details. However, when God performs a miracle, the details will be too numerous and too overwhelming for us to control. God will orchestrate something beautiful and meaningful in our lives, but we must allow people to have their opinions, their methods, and their mistakes. There are infinite ways to accomplish a single goal, and we can have complete confidence that God will achieve His perfect plan through the creative minds of others.
Nothing eternally beautiful can be made without the involvement of the Holy Spirit. So instead of sweating the details, we should be praying and seeking God’s Spirit to demonstrate His power, glory, and grace in our lives, families, ministries, churches, events, etc. And we need to give freedom to those around us to have their own beautiful subjectiveness. We can trust that God will establish His presence in every detail done in His name. When we let go of trying to control every little thing, we will gain freedom to enjoy the breathtaking wedding that God is orchestrating on our behalf between His son and His Bride, the Church.
Let us be glad and rejoice,
and let us give honor to him.
For the time has come for the wedding feast of the Lamb,
and his bride has prepared herself.
– Revelation 19.7 (NLT)
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